A dear friend of mine recently passed over to the other world. And while I want to be human and feel sorry and sad, I can’t. Of course I’m not happy about her going home—consider it a selfish want that I’d like for her to be around to see the wonderful things that are happening in our lives. Yes. This is true. It is selfishness of which I must let go.

And while I don’t find it necessary to include the details of her passing, I must say that she was a strong person of faith, one who fought to make a difference in this world, to make things right and good. She is a shining star now, watching and helping in her new realm.

While reflecting on her absence, I realized how much I appreciated her presence—her humor and sense of what is Good. And in realizing this, I thought about how important it is that we spend time to appreciate people while they are with us—while they are alive. I understand now about a spiritual teaching, one that tells us not to make people saints a f t e r they are gone. What’s the point?   

I’ve lost a lot of friends and family over the years—which has given me to understand better how it must be for them on the other side, since I am connected with them—and one of the “regrets,”  if I have to use that word, is that I didn’t appreciate them as much as they deserved.

We are all deserving of love. We deserve to be thought of with kind thoughts, and believed in with a whole heart, despite our rough edges, our mistakes, and our quirky ways. Yes. We deserve to be believed in. Believe in the success of your friends and family—believe for them until they do succeed, either in this world, or the next.

In the past, I was not always adept at maintaining good friendships. But, as life is my best teacher, I’m learning how to become a better friend, sister, daughter and wife. These life events cause for opportunities to reflect on the inside—when we can change our life for the better—for our own souls, and for those around us. After all, it’s good to consider what people who are close to us have to “go through” when we are around. And let’s hope that they also believe in our own success. Best wishes!